I heard my yoga teacher say this today to another student a few mats over. Her point was if you are going to build a pose from the ground up, then approach it based upon how you want it to be when you bring it to completion.
If it is about flexibility, then have a flexible mind. If it’s about strength, then be mentally strong as you move through the ups and downs. If it is about balance, then bring a balanced approach to it.
I liked what she said a lot.
It’s often easy to push with the opposite approach to what it is that you are ultimately trying to build.
Often times we are working on a project to change our lives from where we are right now. It is easy to use outdated approaches to building a new future for ourselves.
In other words, you don’t build a glass statue with blunt force nor to you carve a marble statue without sweating. The end result will be a culmination of the process.
Our end goal is about developing those skills and qualities along the way and not implementing other skills that serve us in the short term, and ultimately weaken our endeavors.
This casual comment in yoga class is backed up by that famous quote by Aristotle “We are what repeatedly do. There excellence is not an act, but rather a habit”. (Not too bad to be compared to one of the great philosophers as you sit with a sweaty body on a dirty yoga mat.)
What coaching does
Having a coach can be an essential step in helping you be aware of your approach and your end goal.
As a start, think about what it is you are trying to build and how it looks at the end point.
Realize and implement the attitudes, skills and habits that you need to start cultivating along the way to make that end point possible and that much more refined.
What are some of your longer term goals and what habits, skills and attitudes will you have at the end? Are they showing up along the way?
Or are you trying to build towards the goal without practicing what you are trying to develop for the end product ?