I’ve got moments in my life where things seemed perfect. The feelings were powerful, my senses fired all at once, and my attitude seemed larger than life.
Everything just seemed to fit.
One of my finest memories was from living in Colombia. I was driving through the Andes on my motorcycle, the equatorial heat on my arms, the spicy taste still buzzing in my mouth from lunch, and the blue sky opening up into the valleys as I made my way along a country road to a small, colonial town.
Everything got me.
Life was good.
It seemed that I had more exciting things in front of me than bad stuff behind me.
The good time hang over
I think this experience is just as much of a curse as a good time. It seems I spend a lot of time trying to “get it back”in my mind.
Terms like setting the bar, benchmarks, and standards just got raised implies that it’s an uphill push. But here’s the catch: it doesn’t have to be. Pushing hard to recreate what you once had in the past is going to ensure that you’ll never get there. The more you live in the past, the less you enjoy your present.
That’s the curse of good times. They set the bar and most things in your life will fall short of it. That 2 hour ride I had in Colombia is a minute fraction of all my experiences in life, so why rank them in comparison?
What if you could take away the comparison? What if you could do something, enjoy something without ranking it? What if you could not think “It wasn’t as good as last year, I’m not as happy, it doesn’t taste as good, I wasn’t as good, etc”?
I’m not saying that you won’t have those few special times that really stand out in your mind because you will.
But most of what you do in life will not be mind blowing but it will still be great. It’s important to recognize the power of what you are doing now without shaming it into the category of “not as good as…”
Are you holding yourself up to the “ghosts of times past”? What shift could you have if you looked at the pureness of what you are doing right now? How great could it be?